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ADHD and Identity: When You’re Tired of Explaining Yourself
There’s a particular kind of exhaustion that comes from constantly explaining yourself — not because you don’t want to be understood, but because you’ve been translating your inner world for years. This piece explores how ADHD can quietly shape identity, why misunderstanding becomes so tiring, and what shifts when you stop building your sense of self around other people’s expectations.
Matt Barnett
5 days ago4 min read


Why Finishing Is Often Easier Than Starting for ADHD
One of the strangest ADHD experiences is this: Starting a task can feel almost impossible.But once you’re in it, finishing can feel surprisingly easy. To people on the outside, this looks contradictory. If someone can work for hours once they’ve started, why was beginning such a problem in the first place? It’s easy to assume the difficulty was exaggerated, or that the person simply didn’t want to start. Get the new course on Udemy - on offer only $9.99 But for many people wi
Matt Barnett
Jan 263 min read


Why Starting Is So Hard with ADHD (And Why It Isn’t Procrastination)
For many people with ADHD, the hardest part of a task isn’t doing it — it’s starting. This isn’t procrastination or lack of effort, but a difficulty with initiation that can leave someone feeling frozen before they begin. This article explains why starting feels so hard, how pressure and overwhelm make it worse, and why understanding initiation changes the way ADHD behaviour makes sense.
Matt Barnett
Jan 134 min read


Why Reminders Don’t Work for ADHD (And What Actually Helps Instead)
Reminders are supposed to help — but for ADHD brains, they often make things harder. This article explains why reminders regularly fail for people with ADHD, how initiation and energy play a bigger role than memory, and what actually helps instead. A clear, compassionate look at why “just reminding” doesn’t work, and how to create better conditions for action.
Matt Barnett
Dec 29, 20253 min read


It Looks Like They Forgot You. They Probably Didn’t.
When someone with ADHD doesn’t reply, misses a moment, or forgets to follow through, it can feel personal. But most of the time, it isn’t. This piece explores time blindness, intention, and why forgetting time is not the same as forgetting people — and how understanding that can change relationships for good.
Matt Barnett
Dec 15, 20253 min read
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